Are you a good person? Most people think that they are good enough, they know they have weaknesses but it is acceptable because human is imperfect. We could easily accept our own weaknesses, but not the weaknesses of others.
Case 1
We bomb other when we are in great anger or deep depression and seldom feel guilty for scolding the innocent one. Inner thought: “ bad mood so must find a channel to release the tension, who ask you to disturb me?” On the other hand, if you’re bombed by other in the similar situation, you might be hurt, cant forgive that person and complained the rudeness of the person everywhere.
Case 2
You’re doing personal thing during office hour, e.g. blogging, email friends, surfing Web etc. When Mr X walks passing your place, you quickly switch to other program, pretending you’re busy with your work. Inner thought: “This Mr X likes to condemn others in front of the boss. It’s right for me to protect myself.” On the other hand, if you see Mr X doing the same thing, you might think in different way. Inner thought: “ This Mr X likes pretending.”
Do these cases sound familiar to you? Yes, we may face the similar situations before – condemn other meanwhile we do the same thing. Human tend to rationalize their own behaviour. We know human are not perfect, we could accept imperfection in ourselves but always hope other people to be perfect.
Case 1
We bomb other when we are in great anger or deep depression and seldom feel guilty for scolding the innocent one. Inner thought: “ bad mood so must find a channel to release the tension, who ask you to disturb me?” On the other hand, if you’re bombed by other in the similar situation, you might be hurt, cant forgive that person and complained the rudeness of the person everywhere.
Case 2
You’re doing personal thing during office hour, e.g. blogging, email friends, surfing Web etc. When Mr X walks passing your place, you quickly switch to other program, pretending you’re busy with your work. Inner thought: “This Mr X likes to condemn others in front of the boss. It’s right for me to protect myself.” On the other hand, if you see Mr X doing the same thing, you might think in different way. Inner thought: “ This Mr X likes pretending.”
Do these cases sound familiar to you? Yes, we may face the similar situations before – condemn other meanwhile we do the same thing. Human tend to rationalize their own behaviour. We know human are not perfect, we could accept imperfection in ourselves but always hope other people to be perfect.
“How I wish to marry a perfect wife/husband! Charming, rich, considerate, always help me to finish household chores…”
“How I wish to work with a perfect boss! Capable, friendly, appreciate your work, give you bonus and increment annually…”
“How I wish to have a lot of friends! Helpful, smart, funny, 24 hours on call…”
Most people tend to seek perfection in other people, hoping other to behave in the ways that you wish for. Once disappointed, then tag that person as “devil”. Think about this…
I believe that there is no 100% good person – “angel” nor 100% bad person – “devil”. Human have strengths and weaknesses, accept this fact and you’ll be more relaxing in the relationship with others. Admire the strengths and bear the weaknesses in other people.
God bless….
I believe that there is no 100% good person – “angel” nor 100% bad person – “devil”. Human have strengths and weaknesses, accept this fact and you’ll be more relaxing in the relationship with others. Admire the strengths and bear the weaknesses in other people.
God bless….
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